Anal sex is one of the most exciting and enjoyable forms of sex. But if you’ve never done it before, it can also be frightening to get started. When some people think of anal sex, only one thought comes to them: pain! But it doesn’t have to be painful at all. Our tips, a lot of patience, confidence and a good amount of lubricant can make an unforgettable beautiful anal experience the first time.
Talk about it
The most important aspect of anal sex is communication. A newly discovered sexual area can be terribly exciting, but it can also be very scary if you don’t talk about it openly. Tell each other if you are open to it, what your wishes, desires and feelings are that you have towards anal sex. Your partner may know that you may be a little nervous, scared or enthusiastic. Do not press your sentence, but let each other get used to the idea. In addition, do not agree on time when you are going to do it, as that can cause the tension and pressure to increase in a negative way. It happens when it happens! As a Anal Play Beginner you can have all of these.
Read about it together
A sexy way to discover anal sex is to read a book about it. In the book the author describes her own experiences in the field of anal sex. You can get many tips from it to practice anal sex in a safe and pleasant way.
Always keep in mind that you should quietly proceed with anal sex. Going directly to your goal can have painful consequences . Give it as much time as it needs. That can take an hour, but it can also take days, weeks or even months before you can go all the way. Start by playing the anus . That can be done in different ways.
Always use lubricant
It is essential that you use lubricant in any form of anal stimulation. Unlike the vagina, the anus does not make a natural lubricant to make penetration comfortable and easy. Lubricant is therefore an essential tool for anal sex. A thick substance is best for anal use. Anal lubricants are a pleasant lubricant especially for anal sex. The use of a spray to relax the anus is also recommended when you are afraid of pain.
Massage the anus
Apply a little saliva or lubricant to your finger or the anus and gently start massaging. Make sure your nails are cut and cannot cause any wounds.
Massaging is possible, for example, by making small circles with your finger. You can also ‘reassure’ the anus by satisfying the ring muscle with your tongue. This is also called rimming.
- During the massage you will notice that the anus contracts when you touch it. That is a natural reaction of the body and is therefore normal. As you massage longer, the sphincter relaxes more and more.
- When you have been busy long enough, you can try to insert your finger slowly. Pay close attention to your partner’s body language. Cramping often means pain.
- This is all you need to know about rimming.
- Lubricant is absolutely necessary to make anal sex as easy and pleasant as possible.
Toys for anal foreplay
For example, if you are not comfortable with working with your fingers or because you are afraid that you will damage your partner with your finger (nail), you can also use an anal toy such as a narrow anal dildo. But a vibrator is also very pleasant because the vibrations of the toy can make the circle muscle relax. Finally, you can use a butt plug.
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Make sure you always use a sextoy that is specially made for the anus. These toys have a wide underside so that the toy cannot ‘shoot’ inside. It happened more than once that people with an object in their intestinal tract had to go to the hospital. Of course you want to save yourself or your partner!
The rule of thumb, before you even consider introducing anything into your lover’s anus, is that you are sure that the toy is narrow. Also do not forget to use a lot of lubricant with any toy. You can go for an anal toy with a soft exterior (silicone for example) and a hard interior. These are more comfortable than sex toys with a hard exterior and easier to insert than flexible toys. Pay attention! Silicone sex toys do not respond well to silicone-based lubricant.
An anal vibrator is a vibrating toy that is specifically intended for anal insertion. A must is the pink anal vibrator. This vibrator has a slightly pointed head and is only 2 centimeters in diameter. This will make it relatively easy to insert the toy. First hold the vibrator against the anus for a while so that the sphincter can get used to the vibrations. Then you can insert it slowly.
When vibrations are too much for you, you can also opt for an anal dildo. The Beaded Cone anal dildo from the Online Only collection is a suitable toy to use. The toy contains larger beads that run smoothly into each other. This allows you to stretch the anus bit by bit. Decide for yourself how far you can go and what is pleasant for your partner. You don’t have to put it in completely, you can also go halfway. The bottom is widened so that this dildo cannot shoot inside.
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After an extensive anal foreplay, the final sex will go many times smoother and feel better. Regardless of the amount of lubricant that you have used during the foreplay, you will have to apply this again in a large amount for the actual penetration. It does not matter if a strap-on dildo or penis is used, always make sure that both the dildo or penis and the anus of your partner contain sufficient lubricant.
The key to a great first time anal is to start quietly. The anus is not actually made for penetration, so you have to go inside bit by bit and keep reassuring each other. If you are the one who penetrates, let your partner indicate how deep you can go and how hard you can hit and stop immediately if one of you does not feel comfortable with it. You can always pick up the thread later. It is therefore not bad at all if one of you wants to stop after a few minutes. Then you try again another time.
Never go from the anus to the vagina or from the anus to the mouth without having washed the penis first. (Poo) bacteria can spread so easily and make you sick or cause a bladder infection. In addition, keep in mind that poop accidents can occur. That is normal and nothing to be ashamed of.
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